This piece is so well-timed in my life, and I hope it'll give you some helpful reminders, too. From Erik Barker's well-loved blog... enjoy!
Click here to read the post on the blog.
We all get frustrated.
The guy in front of you is driving like an idiot. Your boss is being a jerk. Your partner isn't listening.
And sometimes these all happen to you on the same day.
What's the fix for this? One guy came up with a solution that deals with all of these problems -- and more.
Albert Ellis was quite a character. He was controversial. Outspoken. A bit of a rebel. In fact, the book he's most famous for was titled: How To Stubbornly Refuse To Make Yourself Miserable About Anything-yes, Anything.
Clever but a bit unprofessional, right? Here's the thing: according to asurvey of psychologists he was the 2nd most influential psychotherapist ever. Sigmund Freud came in third.
Here's what Wikipedia says about his system:
His stuff works. And it's as simple as ABCD -- quite literally, as you'll see below.
So how can you never be frustrated again? Let's break it down.
Let's cut to the chase, shall we? Here's what you need to take away from Ellis' work:
You don't get frustrated because of events. You get frustrated because of your beliefs.
The Secret To Never Being Frustrated Again
Click here to read the post on the blog.
We all get frustrated.
The guy in front of you is driving like an idiot. Your boss is being a jerk. Your partner isn't listening.
And sometimes these all happen to you on the same day.
What's the fix for this? One guy came up with a solution that deals with all of these problems -- and more.
Albert Ellis was quite a character. He was controversial. Outspoken. A bit of a rebel. In fact, the book he's most famous for was titled: How To Stubbornly Refuse To Make Yourself Miserable About Anything-yes, Anything.
Clever but a bit unprofessional, right? Here's the thing: according to asurvey of psychologists he was the 2nd most influential psychotherapist ever. Sigmund Freud came in third.
Here's what Wikipedia says about his system:
In general REBT is arguably one of the most investigated theories in the field of psychotherapy and a large amount of clinical experience and a substantial body of modern psychological research have validated and substantiated many of REBTs theoretical assumptions on personality and psychotherapy.
His stuff works. And it's as simple as ABCD -- quite literally, as you'll see below.
So how can you never be frustrated again? Let's break it down.
The Tyranny Of "Should"
Let's cut to the chase, shall we? Here's what you need to take away from Ellis' work:
You don't get frustrated because of events. You get frustrated because of your beliefs.
